Boom. I’ve made it through the first month of motherhood, one painful labour, three very stressful days and nights in the hospital with a poorly baby, a thousand nappies, a few tears, one flight to Dubai and thirty amazing days with my daughter.
I’d like to say I’ve spent the last month living in my pj’s, on the couch getting to grips with motherhood but since Isabella arrived we’ve been non-stop.Midwife appointments, registrations (birth), applications (passport) and we’ve had lots of visitors; friends and family and meeting Isabellas daddys family who thank fully are all really lovely and adore the little lady (which is a great relief as could have easily gone the other way!) We flew to Dubai last week, it’s taken a few days to settle but I can proudly say that I’m writing this next to a sleeping baby, in my pj’s with a glass of merlot and it feels like a little slice of heaven. Now, I could write paragraphs and paragraphs of what I’ve experienced in the last month but you’d probably read a few lines, get bored and zone out so I thought i’d break it down with just the important bits…
Labour is horrific, you think you’re prepared for the level of pain you’re going to endure but you have absolutely no fucking clue. My vagina twitches at the thought of it.
Post labour, is best explained as your own bloody horror movie. Ladies, it aint pretty.
Breast-feeding is really really hard, I’ve been breast-feeding for a month now and it’s only just gotten easier. The first two weeks we’re extremely painful when she latched on, it was that toe curling, punch in the stomach kind of pain. I highly recommend using nipple cream all day, everyday, every time you finish a feed or get out the shower slap it on, your nipples will thank you for it. I also had mastitis (a blocked duct) which is very common in first time breast feeders, your boob throbs with pain, you get a fever, and just feel pretty shit and of course the best way to clear mastitis? Is for your baby to feed and clear the blockage OUCHHHHHH!! I have no idea how long i’ll breast-feed for, it changes on a daily bases but I’ve started introducing an afternoon formula feed just to give myself a little rest bite and a little bit of freedom.
If you need help, ask for it. Our first week at home, I had my mum sleep in the bed with us because I genuinely had no idea what I was doing, tie that in with total exhaustion and it’s bloody difficult to do by yourself. I had no clue how time consuming babies were and how the simplest of things like going for a shower, having a cup of tea, brushing your teeth or writing a blog post were going to become monumental achievements! Whether it’s your boyfriend, husband, family member or friend, let them help you, it will take the pressure off and keep you sane!
Babygrows, babygrows, babygrows. My opinion is you can’t have too many, I’ve bought Isabella so many cute outfits and dresses but she hasn’t had one on her back, mainly because they don’t fit her yet but also when they’re that small, I just feel like they need to be in cosy, soft clothes instead of stylish outfits which often aren’t so comfortable.
You’ll be late for everything, even if you plan to get ready hours before, you’ll be late.
Sleep when the baby is sleeping, I know this is well-known piece of advice but it’s true, there is nothing worse than dealing with a screaming baby while struggling to keep your eyes open.
It will be amazing.